Everyone’s idea of important is different. I personally class important as life changing, something that will have a huge impact on me. In relation to a question that I’ve heard a lot lately ‘is really Facebook that important’ I mainly mean do we as humans need it in our life to survive socially. I’m about to delete my account permanently, well the request has gone through I just need to wait 14 days for it to be done, I’ve deactivated my account a few times because I’ve wanted a break from social media and in a sense wanted to disappear for a while but I found myself always going back. I became obsessed with being noticed, how many friends I had, how likes my statuses and photos got, how many birthday messages, I even got obsessed with being invited to events. Facebook seems to be the be all and end all of life these days but why?
Recently me and friend fell out and she deleted/unfollowed me off all social media except Facebook, we were still “friends” on Facebook. When I I found out she had removed me if everything else I was going to delete her off my Facebook but when I got to the “unfriend” button I just couldn’t do it. It really got me thinking about why I couldn’t hit a button on a social media website, as far as friends go, it was clear that she didn’t want anything to do with me in any other sense of the word friends but Facebook is in a league of its own. If you unfriend someone on Facebook it’s official you hate them more than anyone else in the world, it’s the definition of your friendship… apparently! I’ve happily deleted people off my Facebook who I never speak to or have only met once but people who you have been friends with but are no longer it’s a big no no.
So it got me thinking, why do I have Facebook? To keep in contact with friends and family and to share photos with them. I had nearly 500 friends on Facebook and how many of them do I speak to? How many do I really know? How many are actually my friends? Probably about 10% of them.
I’ve come to the realisation that Facebook seems to have taken over my perception of life and is the decider of everything! If Facebook wasn’t around and I didn’t like someone I wouldn’t pretend to be friends with them in real life so why do we do it in the virtual world? I’ve read many posts from other bloggers about how Facebook has affected them in different ways and most of them explain how it’s great for exposure in business and networking but as far as friends go and socialising if they didn’t have Facebook nothing would change.
So many people obsess over what other people are doing, envy their lives and think Facebook life is everything and more important that real life. I was one of them until now.
Facebook, it’s been fun over the last 8 years but it’s time to rejoin the real world. The actual world we live in where people talk on the phone and face to face.